The Power of Words: How to Speak and Listen with Mindfulness

Angela Scott • January 28, 2025

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me."

For generations, we’ve heard the phrase, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” But the truth is, words can wound just as deeply as any physical harm—leaving lasting emotional and mental scars. Our WORDS and listening to others shape our relationships, self-perception, and overall well-being.

Being mindful of our words and learning to listen with understanding can foster deeper connections and create a more compassionate world. Here are three actionable steps you can take today to practice mindful communication and become more intentional with your words.


1. Pause Before You Speak

In moments of frustration, excitement, or urgency, it’s easy to speak without fully considering the impact of our words. However, taking a brief pause before responding allows you to:

  • Ensure your words align with your true intention.
  • Avoid saying something you may later regret.
  • Foster respect and clarity in your conversations.

Try This Today: Before responding in a conversation, take a deep breath and ask yourself: “Is what I’m about to say helpful, necessary, and kind?” If not, consider rewording or reframing your statement.


2. Listen Without Judgment

Too often, we listen with the intent to reply rather than to understand. When we judge or interrupt, we miss valuable opportunities to connect on a deeper level.

Try This Today: When someone is speaking, practice active listening by:

  • Maintaining eye contact and nodding to show engagement.
  • Resisting the urge to formulate your response while they are still talking (I am guilty of this; it took me years to quiet my inner voice and just listen).
  • Asking clarifying questions before offering advice or opinions (make sure they want advice as well - sometimes people need you to listen).

This simple shift in focus helps build trust and allows others to feel heard and respected.


3. Replace Negative Words with Empowering Language

The way we speak about ourselves and others has a profound impact on our mindset and relationships. Negative or dismissive language can damage self-esteem and weaken connections, while positive and empowering words can uplift and inspire.

Try This Today:

  • Instead of saying, “I’m terrible at this,” try, “I’m still learning, and I’m improving every day.”
  • Replace “You always mess things up” with “Let’s work on finding a solution together.”
  • Swap “I have to” with “I get to” to shift your mindset toward gratitude.

By consciously choosing our words, we can create an environment where communication strengthens, rather than strains, our relationships.


Thoughts Circling in My Mind Are ...

Words are powerful—they can heal or harm, build bridges, or burn them down. We can create meaningful connections and foster understanding in every conversation by pausing before speaking, listening with an open heart, and choosing our words wisely.


What’s one mindful communication practice you’ll start using today?  Share your thoughts in the comments below! 


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